Ask yourself: are you loving yourself or being selfish?

Lately I've been thinking about what does it mean to love yourself. I believe that we often mix it with being selfish. I also believe, that selfishness is something that comes naturally, but pure unconditional love is something we have to learn. 

What is the difference between 

and

I'd love to read your thoughts about loving yourself. Leave a comment or a link to your blog post below. 

Ask yourself: how do other people see you?

Previous posts (I recommend reading them first):

Who are you? Part 1

Ask yourself: who would you like to be?

Ask yourself: why?

Ok. Now you know who is the ideal you and why. This time I ask you to think about how other people see you and think about you. Once again you need a notebook or a piece of paper and a pen. 

What does...

...think about you? Make a list of adjectives. Try to find at least 20. 

After this have a conversation with your list. Ask questions like why, is it true, do you like that, has it affected you negatively or positively, is there something you should do about it... etc. 

Now, do the same thing with:

And other people that come to your mind.

Ask yourself: why

This is the second 'Ask yourself' post. Last time I asked you what kind of person you would like be. I hope you wrote down your thoughts, and if you didn't, I recommend you'll do it before moving on to this new post.

Now you have a picture of an ideal you in your head. 

Chase Elliot Clark

Think about all those things that came to your mind. Now ponder each feature, quality, detail and idea. Ask yourself:

Why do I want to be like that? But don't stop there. Go further once you answer your question. Question your answer. Ask why is it so.

Here's an example:

What kind of person would you be? - I'd like to be good at meeting new people.

Why?  - Because I often feel uncomfortable when I have to speak with people I don't know.

Why?  - Because I feel I'm not good at small talk and it's hard to be myself in those situations.

Why? - Because I feel they are analyzing me and it's uncomfortable.

Why? - Because...

Ask yourself: who would you like to be?

I wrote about finding yourself HERE. Now I'm starting a new post series about understanding yourself more deeply.  

By David Talley

Join me on this journey. What you need is courage, an open heart and mind and willingness to grow.  

Ask yourself...

Get a piece of paper or your notebook and write down at least 20 things. Take your time. You can spend a whole day, or even longer, doing this one exercise. Dig deep. Dream. Who is the ideal me? What is she/he like?

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